Falling out with friends
 

So I was out having a few drinks with friends on Saturday as you do, but people started disappearing all of a sudden. It usually wouldnt really matter but it was like an early birthday night out for me cos my birthday is tomorrow and a lot of people would be working.

Anyway I was looking and it was getting extremely irritating because I was sobering up and wasting good party time on it. One of my mates called me the next day and apologised and I said it was cool and it didn't really matter. My other mate never bothered getting in touch even though there was a bunch of texts from the night before. I deliberately didnt mention it until just now, which I did on MSN, cos I thought he would just be like "oh yeah sorry dude, (insert excuse here)." Pretty simple I would have thought, but he started giving me all this BS about looking for me and its pretty obvious he went off with his ex-girlfriend and never spent any time looking.

Anyway he decided to go off ranting at me and looks like we have fallen out now.

So a tiny thing becomes a big deal. These were some of my best friends I was out with, which is why I gave a fuck where they had gone.

I know it probably sounds like I am a little pussy bitching about it, but I am sure anyone else who has fallen out with good friends will understand - its always something little and it all kicks off.


I am not looking for advice or anything. When was the last time any of you fell out with a good friend? Do you regret it?

I will probably end up friends with this dude again but its getting pretty tiring, I am planning on leaving the country for good as soon as I graduate and I think I have outgrown him. Anyone with similar stories?

Friends come and go...

When they go it hurts sometimes/sometimes it doesn't :)

I am married to my best friend now :p

I'm one of those loyal types, I used to be really close to a bunch of people but really I have a handful of real friends and thats good enough for me. I'm glad the assholes splintered off and I could give a damn about them. They call me fairly often but I don't even answer the phone calls. They want me to be there for their birthdays/parties/et al but you fuck me once and you're out.

Within the last few years I've noticed women are more loyal as friends in general. Plus they have tits :D

Yeah, a problem with being friends with girls is all the ones im not attracted to end up liking me, and I end up liking all the ones who arent into me. I am pretty sure thats the story with a lot of guys.

I don't have a problem with breaking up friendship when it is for good reason or if it wasnt that strong in the first place, but when its a friendship that has lasted a long time it seems like a waste.

I think I am generally pissed off right now, I am away on holiday too. When I come back home I guess I wont really give a fuck.

Yep, totally agree. I also have a small handfull of friends I keep in touch with now and again but I'm much happier on my own, plus like pen said, I'm engaged with to my best friend now.

i had a best friend i had known for about 10 years. one morning, i was to pick him up early for a trip. i go over, ring the bell, but no answer. i call, no answer. i didn't really think much of it cuz he works as a parole agent and often gets called away to pick up a parolee. a few days go by, no word. a few weeks. a few months. didn't see or hear from him for about 4 years. nothing. just disappeared.

then one day, he shows up at my door unannounced. asks me to lunch. of course, i'm fucking mystified and first thing i ask is wtf? his answer? his just recent ex-girlfriend didn't like me.

just before he disappeared, he met a girl and we double-dated to six flags. i guess my normal behavior (which you dsf'ers know can be quite assholish at times) put her off. he made a choice.

eventually, they broke up. and then he wanted to resume the friendship. you can only imagine how fast i fucking kicked him to the curb. he called every once in a while after that, but i never responded.

Besides the easiest way to get good pussy is to be surrounded by it. Just my .02

I discovered that who you think are friends aren't always. I went through a rough patch about 5-6 years ago, lost job, divorce, etc, and suddenly I noticed none of my friends called me anymore. It's not like I sat around depressed or anything, but apparently some people don't want to deal with others shit.
Now, I don't know that I have any real close friends, some aquaintances, I don't trust people that much.
That's just me.

My philosophy is to think everyone is going to fuck you over, but hope they don't. My mind ends up in a pretty comfortable spot plus I'm always surprised when someone sticks around.

I've had the same core group of friends since school. We all play v-ball and drink beers. There's not a lot of social drama. It's good. My grown up friends are catty bitches, but they crack me up. I have never seen the point in calling out someone for their behavior or having deep conversations to discuss past hurts. Build a fucking bridge and get over it.