My advice - Quit actively looking. There's a theory that if you aren't looking for the "right one" she'll find you. May not be what you think you want, but she's likely the one you'll be happiest with.
Besides, my female friends say that they can spot a desperate guy a mile away.
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That goes hand in hand with my theory above.
You "Act as if".
"Act as if" you aren't looking. "Act as if" you can get a GF anytime you want. When you really start to believe it, it won't be an act. When you actually believe you are a "catch" that's when you will stop pandering to women and women will start to like you more. Your attitude will be "i don't care if you like me or not, there are plenty of other girls that want me"... dont be cocky or a douche... just know it. Women will pick up on it.
It's real matrix, metal mind game shit. Don't be a douche. Just be a self-assured guy.
The non self-assured guy (Non SAG) is the one looking at a woman's eyes to see if she is going to laugh at his jokes. The non SAG is the one that will follow the woman to the restroom and buy all the drinks. The non SAG will sit there quietly while the woman talks to other people...even other guys. Be interesting. Don't be a "one-upper" but have some interesting stories to tell. When others tell an interesting story give them confirmation and ask questions.
This is shit i have learned first hand by being single for 38 years and talking to hundreds of random women and watching the guys that are really good at it until i learned it myself.
If you actually stop looking, you'll miss the opportunity when it presents itself.
Yes and for god fucking sake dont be a pussy. Please dear god dont be clingy, Ive said it before...if I wanted to date a damn woman I would. Punto y final.
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dont be this guy... the guy that plays 20 questions...this is NOT conversation!
(we'll enter the middle of the convo) Man: Oh, wow that's great. So what school did you go to?
Woman: I went to NYU Man: NYU, that's great. I had a firend that went there. What's your degree in?
Woman: Economics Man: Oh, cool. So are you an accountant?
Woman: No, i am a middle manager at ABC corp. Man: oh, i see. So how long have you lived here in XYC city?
Woman: 6 years Man: So where did you live before that?
*woman proceeds to start anxiously looking for an escape route*
This kind of "conversation" will have her saying "wait right here, i'm going to the bathroom"... never to come back.
That is not conversation. DO NOT play 20 questions
EDIT - this is "safe guy" convo.... the guys that have safe guy conversations are the guys that are trying too hard to be liked.
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Yes but to a certain extent.
(seriously this will be that last one, i promise)
You can be funny but if you are just telling too many jokes you can become the "joker" or like an entertainer of sorts.... not good.
It's better to be funny but in an off hand sort of way. It just makes you seem different and more interesting than other guys.
Here's a couple i use a lot and are adaptable to all diff situations:
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See in this case you are witholding something from her. Any other guy would have just told her... by NOT telling her you are not succumbing to her wishes because you are not just like other guys (Psst... there's nothing to tell but she doesnt know that).
EDIT - shit, i'm late i gotta go meet some friends, i will be back on later. I'll write some more!