dont apologize! you have the boobs!!

boy's have a penis and girls have vagina's

ITS NOT A TOOMAH!

Well, I don’t have a daughter of my own but I’ll tackle this anyway. I can relate somewhat because I have a 16 year old cousin (through marriage) whose boyfriend fits exactly the criteria you’ve put forth. He’s a nice guy and I like him but she can do a lot better, IMHO. Of course, I think rather highly of this girl as she and I bonded quite well during our evacuation from Hurricane Katrina and I may be biased a bit as I tend to put the women in my life a bit higher on the pedestal than they may really deserve. (My God, that was such a run-on sentence!)

I would counsel my hypothetical daughter to go with option C, which you did not include. Option C is to wait a bit. I married my high school sweetheart when I was 21 and she was barely 19. We were madly in love. Divorce ran rampant in her family, though, and mine was up to that point free of divorce. My ex-wife was mad to be married and rode me hard (pun not intended) until I succumbed. Not that I didn’t want to be with her but I thought we should have waited. I was still in a temporary capacity at my job and we didn’t have a pot to piss in yet but she would not relent. We were married for 4 ½ years, 4 of which I thought we were happy.

As it turns out, her fantasy of what it was like to be married was not the reality of life. I come from a loud and boisterous family and she absolutely didn’t. I had just spent three years in the Army and felt I hadn’t really been able to just have fun yet and would have preferred to wait a few years before getting married. One day, I worked a double shift and found her gone when I returned. She took the coward’s way out and wouldn’t face me. I was devastated and it took me more than a year to feel like a normal person again.

I do feel that this is because we married too young and didn’t yet know who we were.

In the end, she did me a huge favor because I have a better life now than I would have had we stayed together. I have so many new friends and had so many great adventures that never would have happened. I have made numerous trips out of the country and spent 6 months on the road with a touring band. I went back to school and got my college degree. The woman I am married to now is a well rounded individual with her own career and a *realistic* view of life and has the experience that you do not have to bring to a relationship when you’re 18 or 19 years old.

My ex mother-in-law imparted some wisdom to me soon after the divorce. She said that even though she thought her daughter was making a mistake, a parent cannot dictate to their child who to be with. You must allow them to make their own mistakes and, hopefully, learn from them. So, if option C is not agreeable, I would have to go with option A and be there for her if it were to all fall apart later on.

Okay, let's see... questions and who to ask...

When I first read Satan's question this was the first thing that jumped into my head. I think it's all you can do, as much as you want to help as much as you can and not see them hurt, I think this is the only way to do it.

My daughter is 2 soon, I have all this to look forward to:) .

Nice response RDC. My daughter is 5 right now so I know I have a while, but I'm already dreading the day I have to have this talk.

Yeah, fuck that, I'm lockin mine in the basement. At least till I die.

With the advances in technology I figure there will be a way to "help" them "make" the "right" choices in the future.


...and no, if it comes to there safety I am NOT above pulling a Clockwork Orange on them....or more preferably, their boyfriends.

"whats that you said about lovely steaky wakes bitch!!"

That must mean you I'm cooler than Dante Hicks. Sweet, I've never been cooler than anyone else before.

No worries. I was just fucking around with that last question about you having a favorite. I wasn't expecting for you to actually pick one person. There's way too many people for that shit. You could have always chosen yourself though. Be conceited. I probably would have.

Okay, I've tried to come up with a profound question for someone but I'm just not in a profound frame of mind right now. So...

Scampr! You're a music guy, right? Tell us, if you could put together your dream band, who would it be? A singer, a guitarist or two, a bassist, drummer and keyboardist. The catch is that you're putting this together using only deceased musicians. No zombie shit or anything, just limiting the pool you have to choose from. And you're not just pulling the best players. It all has to make sense, like these people could have actually collaborated and made something worthwhile. You tell me yours and I'll tell you mine!

:rolleyes: